Advice on boyfriend does he care about baby?

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Lovestruck


A little while ago (2 months) I had a miscarriage and while I feel a little down even now my boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I spoke to a group representing women who lost babies and picked and registered a name to put into their memorial book but he wont see it cos its pointless while I feel he doesn't care. He says i'm forcing him to act the way I do but all I want is someone to remember my baby cos no-one else does. Can anyone else relate or am I being in the wrong.


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It is more difficult for men to understand. My husband didn't feel a strong connection to my pregnancies. Only until our boys were born, did he understand it all. You need to ask him to be supportive at this time for you. Loosing a baby is not easy. I just had a miscarriage last month. Your hormones, your body, your minds do not go back to normal right away. He does need to have some compassion for you at this time or you may want to reconsider having a baby with this person at all. Having a baby is an emotional road no matter the outcome. He has to be on-board all the way or get off the ship. There's no in-between. He lost a baby too. It was not just your baby. You need to explain this to him. You had a life attached to your body and now that it's not there, that is very difficult. If he can't support you emotionally, then to be honest, please tell him you can't have children with him. Parenting is not supposed to be one parent. It's made for two.

Need advice on taking care of newborn bunnies please?




Lady Bunny


OK, so 4 days ago one of my female bunnies had 4 babies. Everything was fine until a day later we realized that she wasn't feeding them and that they had scratches on their face from her. And so we took them out of her cage and put them in a shoebox (right next to her cage so she can see them) that had a towel on the bottom and fur on the top.

Since they still needed to eat we decided to try something different. We had one of our brothers hold the mother bunny well we held one of the babies up to her nipple. This turn out working good because the mother didn't mind and the babies were able to eat. The only problem is is that we don't know how long and how many times they are supposed to eat a day. Right now were having them eating once a day at 5:00 p.m until the stomachs are round and circled like how their supposed to be when you check to see if there eating. Is this fine or do we need to do something else?


Also, because the babies aren't in the same cage we have been trying to figure out how she can clean them. We thought about putting them in again just long enough for her clean them and then take them back out. Or is it possible we can take a soft wash towel with warm water and softly dib dab them with it to clean them off?



Also, one of our other bunnies had 3 babies too just yesterday and we waited until she cleaned them off and such until we put them in another box like we did with the other because she was in a box when she had them (it did have fur in it and was big) and they kept ruining their (sorta) nest and ending up on the cardboard. The only question is, are they suppose to feed as soon as they come out? We looked it up and it said that the mother usually doesn't feed them until the next day and that they already have food from being in her stomach.

We also decided that we will put them back in the cage with a new made nest because we believe she won't step on them like the other one did and will feed them. But in any chance that she doesn't, will it be alright to have the other bunny feed them? The one that had 3 has sorta a wild side to her and so we couldn't do what we did with the other.


Also any advice or tips would be appreciated. :)


Note: We also are very careful with picking up the babies and make sure to have clean hands when we do.



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Hi. Here is my advice.

First Bunny.
Rabbits nurse only ONE TIME a day, so if you think that she is not caring for them based only on the fact you don't see them feed...think again. The scratches that you found could mean that the mother was grooming them too hard or too often. But if you are sure she is neglecting them; if they are dehydrated, cold, obviously ignored, of course, something must be done. The feeding method that you are using will work out great, you only have to do this once a day, I'm not sure for how long so just stick to what you have been doing. Your nest is fine the only recommendation I give you is that you cover the box with a towel over it so it stays dark but leave a little two inch gap so that the bunny's can get air. If the room temperature is between 68-72 degrees you will not need to provide extra heat, but if it's cooler than that you will need to provide extra warmth. Use a heating pad set on low and slip it under one half only of the bottom towel in the box. We do it this way so that the babies can move to a cooler area if it gets too warm. ALWAYS make sure that the heating pad is covered, as babies can burn themselves very badly on an exposed heating pad. After each feeding it is important to make the bunny defecate and urinate to keep the intestinal tract and urinary system running smoothly. Use a soft cloth or a cotton ball moistened with warm water and gently stroke from between the bunny's front legs all the way down over the anal area until the bunny starts producing stool and urine, and keep stroking until the bunny stops. You are replicating the behavior of the mother rabbit who would lick her young to stimulate them to go to the bathroom (as well as to keep the nest clean). Clean the babies with a damp cloth or paper towel, and remember to clean around their mouth so that the milk doesn't dry into the hair.

Second Bunny:
Don't worry if the bunny doesn't feed them the first day. What you read is true, they already have milk in their system and the mother's rich milk sustains the babies for 24 hours at a time. Yes, put the bunny's back in with her mother and make a new nest for them as you had planned. Make the babies a soft nest area in a box with clean towels. We like to put one folded towel on the bottom and another bunched on top of that, so the babies can snuggle into it. You can also purchase soft nesting wool from a pet store and put that on top of the towel. If the mother happens to neglect the babies than you can try getting your other bunny to feed them (since you say that she has a wild side) this is called a "surrogate" mother.

Additional Tips:
The mothe's milk is the best possible milk for the babies so as long as you can get the mother to feed them continue doing so but If you can't get the mother to feed the babies anymore even if you hold them up to her nipple than feed them youself with Kitty Milk. Baby rabbits should be fed Kitten Milk Replacer (KMR), which you can buy at pet stores, or sometimes even a local veterinarian's office. Because rabbit milk is the most caloric of all mammals, we add in one tablespoon of cream to each can of KMR. Unless you are familiar with and skilled at tube feeding babies, use an eye dropper or sterile oral syringe, which can be purchased at most pharmacies. Using acidophilus in addition to KMR will GREATLY increase the baby rabbit's chance of survival, because it helps keep the bacterial balance in a baby's tummy adequate.

Feed baby rabbits no more than twice a day. Baby rabbits normally feed only ONCE a day, but you're not mama and the KMR is not as caloric as rabbit milk---so if baby does not take in the total amount in one feeding, you may split the feedings in half, AM/PM - but no more frequently as it can cause severe gastrointestinal distress. Overfeeding is a leading cause of death in infant domestic rabbits so pay close attention to the amounts bellow...

Newborn-
KMR: 5cc's
Acidophilus: 1/2 cc (half a capsule)

1 week:
KMR: 10-15 cc's
Acidophilus: 1/2 cc (Half a capsule)

2 weeks
KMR: 26-30 cc's
Acidophilus: 1 cc (one capsule)

3-4 weeks:
KMR: 30 cc's
Acidophilus: 1 cc (one capsule)

Baby rabbit eyes open at about 10 days of age. You may start introducing them to hay and pellets at this point, but no veggies or fruits yet. Just leave some hay and pellets in a corner of the box where the babies can easily get to them. Make sure it the pellets are plain, high fiber and fresh, with NO added goodies such as dried banana chips or seeds. Once they are 5 weeks old you can stop feeding them milk and give them pellets and hay as their permanent food.

Good Luck
Hope I helped

PPROM birth - baby care advice?




aipop


Hi,

My wife had a preterm premature rupture of the membranes this morning in her 36 week (by the way, she doesn't smoke or drink alcohol, nor has infections, but was under great stress, which might be the contributing factor). The doctor went ahead with delivery -- so my boy weighs 5.9 pounds (2.6 kg) and is 1 57 ft (48 cm) in length. No apparent breathing problems so far and they won't be putting him on any support systems, but still I am bit worried. So, what should we especially pay attention to when caring for such a small little thing? I read somewhere that breast-feeding is ESPECIALLY important, but let's see if that's granted. Thanks!!



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36 weeks is not that bad. My cousin had her baby full term and he was only 5 lbs. I think your son will be absolutely fine, being breastfed or not. But you're right, breastfeeding if always the best. He'll start gaining weight soon enough.

Found Baby squirrels, any advice on care?

Q. around 5 weeks old, working on weaning, what type of healthy food should i use?


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Although you might want to find someone who knows exactly how to take care of them, if you want to take care of them yourself, do this-

Make sure they stay very warm-90-95 degrees farenheit. Find a crate or something to keep them in also. What you might want to do to keep them warm is put a heating pad under their nest-which should be made of SEVERAL old towels, rags, shirts, or anything else that is soft, absorbent, and retains heat well.

For feeding-DO NOT USE cow's milk or human baby formula-as it is almost poinsonous to them and they can't digest it. Use Esbilac, Nurturall, or Just Born puppy formula for them, because they can digest it. Never feed a baby until it is totally warmed, or it will die. After baby is fully warmed (it will feel hot to your touch), feed Pedialyte or warm Gatorade (or equivalent), every ½ hour for 5 feedings. Then feed formula diluted with Pedialyte or Gatorade (mix 1 to 1) every 1 hour for 4 feedings. Then feed formula full strength every 2 hours, and Pedialyte 3 times per day between regular feedings. For first 6 weeks of life, feed formula with 1 cc syringe (no needle!) or eye dropper every 2 hours during the day and 4 hours during the night. Feed approx. ¾ eye dropper full (0.6 to 1.0 cc) each time, and gradually increase amount as squirrel grows.

I know, it sounds pretty complicated. If you can't do all this, DO find a professional who can.

And finally, release them when they are ready. You can't keep a squirrel forever. Release them in some sort of wooded area where they can be safe.


This is where I found all this-you should go there and see what else you need to know. http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Aegean/2444/squirrels.html

Good luck on taking care of your squirrels. You are their angel-they wouldn't be alive without you :)

wanting another baby advice?




Mommy to p


I already have a 6 year old son and daughter who will be 1 on saturday. I have been non-stop thinking about having another baby, my bf of 3 years doesn't want another baby he keeps saying he wants to get fixed. I stay home with our daughter now and will be babysitting our friends daughter at the end of the month. My plan is to go to school to finish my course in September which is only 5 months long. My plan was to get pregnant sometime in the fall/winter which would make my daughter 2 1/2 when the baby comes. I know having 2 young kids would be difficult but my son is old enough to help and my daughter should be self dependent by then.

Question is is that to early to having another one or should i wait?
And with my bf not wanting another one how do i explain to him that i really really want this without it starting a fight? Also I would like to know how people manged with a 2 year old and being pregnant again, while going to school? Did you work during your pregnancy? After you gave birth? How was your experience taking care of a toddler while being pregnant?

I am going crazy thinking about this 24/7 and don't know what to do
Please help and share any experiences if you have had the same situation
when i mean my son is old enough it is he helps when asked too i don't depend on my son to help me now he just likes to help me sometimes, and my daughter is pretty easy at night i don't get sleepless nights anymore..I understand the factor of my bf not wanting one but i am pretty sure i can talk to him about it



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My best advice, DO NOT force someone to have a baby when they don't want one. If you have a 6 year old, you should no better then thinking a 2 1/2 year old will be a piece of cake with a newborn. 2 1/2 year olds still require TONS of attention and assistance with everything they do.

Give your boyfriend time. Your baby is just barely getting out of infancy. Are you and your partner really ready to start the newborn phase again so soon, which the lack of sleep plus two other kids to take care of.

IF you force your boyfriend to have a baby when he doesn't want to, it will only lead to resentment towards you and your children. If you don't mind raising these kids alone and with now help, go ahead, but I really wouldn't recommend it.

Having three children and going back to work is doable, but a lot of work, as well as very expensive in daycare costs. Why not just enjoy your two little precious children until you and your boyfriend reach a mutual decision.

Best of luck to you.

baby bunnies? help please?




Ash


I had found a baby bunny and he looks like he can still be bottle fed any advice on how i can take care of him?


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How Do I Know If the Baby Bunnies Need Help?
Very young wild baby bunnies with eyes closed and ears back rarely survive in captivity, even given the most expert human care; and so it is very important to determine whether they really need help. Try to assess whether the infants seem warm and healthy or cold, thin, and dehydrated. One test for dehydration is to gently pinch the loose skin at the back of the neck. If it stays in a "tent," or does not spring back in one second, the bunny is SEVERELY dehydrated and needs rehabilitation IMMEDIATELY by a professional rabbit vet or rehabber. Another test is to stroke the genital area to stimulate elimination. If the pee is brown and gritty, the mother rabbit has not been there to help the bunnies urinate. The brown, gritty urine is toxic, and the infant bunny must be cared for by a professional. Please contact a Wildlife Rehabilitator or rabbit vet immediately.

Older baby bunnies who are found outside of the nest may not be orphaned or in need of assistance. Baby cottontails are born without fur but develop a full coat in a week. Their eyes open in 10 days, and in three to four weeks they are weaned. At this age, they may explore the world outside of the nest but return there to sleep. They are not ignored by the mother but stay with the family group until four or five weeks of age. To determine whether a bunny of this age needs assistance, perform the dehydration test. Also look for bleeding, convulsing, fly larvae, broken limbs; if any, get to a rabbit vet or emergency vet immediately. If he is just out and about, leave him be. He is discovering his world, waiting for mom to return at night when we humans are asleep.


What If the Baby Bunny Is Injured?
Either call or take him to your local humane society or animal shelter/animal control. Call first as often they will come pick up the baby. If they don't have a wildlife center, they will refer you. If after hours, contact a local emergency rabbit vet or Rabbit Veterinarian.
The best thing you can do for an injured wild baby bunny is to get in touch with a skilled rehabilitator.

Great info on local rehabilitators can be found at The Wildlife Rehabilitation Information Directory


Is there anything I can do to avoid orphaning baby bunnies?
The harsh reality is that many of us who care about wild baby bunnies may be contributing to the suffering and death. House cats who roam outside will kill about every other time they go out. And unlike feral cats who hunt because they are hungry, and kill immediately, house cats maul and torment their prey, sometimes skinning baby bunnies alive. Cat owners need to provide managed outdoor habitats for their cats - such as windowboxes or pens. Providing a bell on your cat will help warn the wildlife if you cannot keep him inside.
Lawn chemicals can produce convulsing death in baby rabbits. According to the Poison Control Center for Animals, lawn applications that contain herbicides are not directly toxic to small animals; but they may make toxic plants more palatable to them and may make the animals sick for a few days. Products which contain insecticides, such as Dursban or Diazinion, which are added to many lawn products to control fleas or grubs in the lawn, are toxic.


The Bunny is Wild and Really Orphaned - How do I care for it?
Again, make sure you KNOW for sure the mom was killed and the bunnies are abandoned (not warm, etc). You will not see the mom. The mom will only come back in the middle of the night to feed her babies. If the mom was killed, the best thing you can do for a wild orphaned baby bunny is to get in touch with a skilled rehabilitator. In the meantime, call your local humane society or animal control and one of these vets for a wildlife referral: http://www.rabbit.org/vets/vets.html
http://www.morfz.com/PB_vets.html

A great directory of local rehabilitators can be found at: http://www.tc.umn.edu/~devo0028/contact.htm


The Bunny is Domestic (NOT WILD) and Really Orphaned - How do I care for it?
Remember the domestic/wild bunny mom only feeds her young usually once in the middle of the night. Don't assume she is not caring for them if you don't see her nurse them. Check their tummies to see if they are round and the babies are warm in the morning--this means she is caring for them. In the rare situation that you have an orphaned domestic bunny, such as when a domestic rabbit mom is sick or refuses to care for her young, you will need to feed the babies. Overfeeding is a leading cause of death in these youngsters which results in fatal intestinal disease.
Use Meyenberg Regular Goat milk (found at Safeway in the milk section or Whole Foods) or KMR KITTEN powder formula + follow directions on the can. (KMR better for domestics). It may be easiest to start with a 3 cc/ml syringe or an eyedropper. Some use pet nurser nipples on the end of a luer lock syringe, or a teat cannula on the end of a syringe. Feed onl

Rabbit babies advice needed?




JesusMan


Yesterday our rabbit built a nest but ended up giving birth in the hutch at night 3 were born 1 died unfortunately the remaining two seem ok but I want to know if there's anything i have to do to ensure they survive or will the mother take care of everything? Also she continues to build the nest that she started, she rips her fur collects grass and takes it to the nest underground. Why is she doing this? Is she having more babies? Appreciate any help thanks.


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Have you checked the nest today if not you need to. If you find any dead you will need to remove them. I have had does to pull move fur to cover the nest with a few day after giving birth.. It is possible for her to have more kits but i would not expect any more after 24 hour.

How to take care a doe with a litter- Check the kit (baby rabbits) every day. Wash your hands first to remove any other animal scent you may have on your hands as this can cause the doe to kill or not take care of her young. after checking the nest cover it back up with the fur.
You can tell if the doe is feed them the kits will have a round stomach or a sunken in stomach if she is not feeding them.

By the time the kits are 2 week the doe needs to be on full feed of rabbit pellet and of hay. Around 2 week
of age the kits will start to come out of the nest box and start to eat the does feed.

It is best to wean the kits at 8 weeks of age.

baby bird advice, anyone???????




Skittles t


should i feed a wild baby bird over night?

i have to feed it til monday, cause we will take it to the vet



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Birds sleep at night and thier parents normall do NOT feed them at night as they sleep as well. You really should be taking this bird to a local wildlife rehab if it is impossible to get back to it's parents. Vets are not licensed to treat wildlife. Please look here for instructions I usually give for anyone finding a baby bird. Please follow the relavent advice:
If the bird is fully feathered, it is most likely a fledgling and has left the nest on it's own and it's parents are caring for it. It is normal for birds to leave the nest before they can fly. You need to replace it where you found it..preferably in a scrub or tree so it is relatively safe from predators, and the parents should come back to feed it. If it is unfeathered...then look for a nest and if you can find it...replace it into the nest. Do not worry about your scent being on the chick..birds have a very poorly developed sense of smell and will NOT reject a baby that has been touched. If you cannot find a nest, get the bird to a local wildlife rehab for it's best chance of survival. Also, keep in mind, it is illegal for you to try and raise this bird on your own. Look for a rehab here:
http://www.tc.umn.edu/~devo0028/contact.…

Advice on taking care of a baby horse!?




jmt11sb


I just found out that my mare is pregnant, and she's huge so she's probably going to pop out a little one soon and this will be my first time taking care of a baby horse. I need as much advice on possible, with what to feed them, how to take care of them, training them, how the mother will act, ect.. Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated! Please!

Thank you!



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you need to work out a plan with your vet! For now make sure momma is comfy in a big stall and she has plenty of hay and water. It's always a little scary at first but trust me it's well worth it! Make sure Mother and Baby are not separated for the first 48 hrs. Of course they won't be happy after that either so try and keep them around each other until the colt/filly is completely weaned! If you worry, the mare will worry and it won't be pretty.... Also what you might want to do is find a book about it! For instance I know a lot about horses but I figured it couldn't hurt to get the book Horses for dummies and I actually learned a lot more! Good luck Call that Vet ASAP!! Congrats on the baby!!

afican amaerican baby hair care?




Mia


i have a african american baby girl. shes 10 months old and i have been having a very hard time caring for her hair. She has really dry hair and very curly hair Ive been using the Johnson Johnson baby shampoo+conditioner and it doesn't seem to work... whats a good shampoo, conditioner and hair moisturizer for African American baby hair???


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http://forum.blackhairmedia.com
http://www.nappturality.com

is where you can get advice and recommendations on how to care for and handle her hair; I think they both have sections dedicated to children's hair.



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